Many folks in the new age community would have you believe in a concept called a twin flame relationship. If you haven’t heard of the twin flame or twin soul concept, it is understood as another human being serving as the other half of your soul. As the myth goes, each of us has only one twin flame, which after being split, the two souls went their separate ways, incarnating over and over again to have a human experience before reuniting to ascend together. Sounds like the stuff of fairy tales, right?
Another source says that each side of the twin is a complete soul but their task is to become more complete in reuniting, balancing the feminine and the masculine together. How does that make any sense? You are either a complete soul or not. Complete is an absolute; there is no more or less complete. Furthermore, our inner divinity is neither masculine nor feminine. The soul does not know or operate within dualities, opposites or separations. If we are searching for our masculine or feminine counterpart, we need to go no further than looking within, toward the soul. Nothing short of the Cinderella or Snow White tales, the myth would have you believe the twin flame relationship as the most fulfilling relationship on Earth, which comes with sacred sex, spiritual super powers and a happily ever after ending. Yet, in this twin flame community, they explain that there is usually a ‘runner’ in this reunion. They tell you the other person is scared or not ready. The worst part about this is the person who believes the other person is their twin flame will put up with all sorts of emotional and spiritual abuse from the person in question. They believe that if they are just patient enough and put up with enough bullshit the soul in question will return to them and the magic list of twin flame benefits will activate, basically fixing everything. And the cycle goes on and on with a never-ending search for this magical partner, delivering enlightenment. Friends, I tell you this is one hell of a fairy tale, equally as alarming as the concept of prince charming coming to save Snow White from the evil witch. The first thing wrong with the twin flame myth is that you are a complete, sovereign being regardless of the relationship you happen to be in. Second, finding this so called twin flame is by no means a requirement for self-actualization/ enlightenment/ ascension, which really is nothing more than completing your cycle of lifetimes on earth through integration of all parts of yourself and in complete love for and acceptance of yourself. If you’re running around looking for your ‘other half’ in a panic, I promise ascension will not even be an option. The ‘other half’ is you! I wasn’t introduced to this concept of a twin flame until 2013 after a spiritual awakening. I’ll admit it was one hell of a tale that mesmerized me. In 2014, I met a man and our connection blew me away. “Could this be him, my twin flame?” I thought. Cue damsel in distress mentality. Fortunately, just days after our meeting, I was scheduled to fly to Costa Rica, where I was volunteering at a sea turtle rescue and writing my book, Becoming Sar'h: Book One. One night, I was walking down the beach in an electric storm. The sky was illuminating every 30 seconds or so with the brilliant pink and purple glow of the lightening strikes. Yeshua (some of you may know him as Jesus) and I were walking barefoot, side by side down the black sand beach. Yeshua visits me – like thousands of other people – on occasion. I said to him, “Do you think this man could be my twin flame?” Before we had been joking and laughing with each other. Yeshua has quite the sense of humor. After the question, he became quiet and contemplative. “Lauren, what does your soul tell you about twin flames?” Like any good teacher, Yeshua showed me where to look not what to see (I learned from the best), so I reached deep within for the answer. “My soul tells me I AM my own twin flame,” I said, waiting to see if this was what he was looking for. Yeshua flashed a smile that seemed to radiate from his heart. I knew I had not disappointed him. Together we finished our walk in silence, and I basked in the honor and respect my teacher and friend had for me. Later, I would find out through a series of dreams that this man and I had experienced many lives together, and we had a lot to remember and learn from one another in this lifetime. It was a huge gift to have found each other – one we had planned before incarnating again. Yet, if I had been in throws of the twin flame myth, and I had been chasing after the romantic notion of him completing me, I would have missed all the lessons and joy of sharing our experiences – something that has brought me great joy over the course of our almost two-year-long reunion. He remains a great friend whose opinions I trust, and I’m so glad I did not miss that. Technically, this man would fit into the new age concept of soul mate. One source says these human souls are our ‘soul family’ reincarnated whom we have many lifetimes with and who help us evolve and dissipate karma. Further more, soul relationships have another category called karmic relationships. These are relationships with souls, we’ve shared past lives with and met up with again to heal the past and help each other evolve. I don’t disagree with being open to these relationships helping us evolve and release karma (or you could just evolve and release the karma alone, but I digress...). My resistance to them is what happens when our human aspect – the one who has been trained to believe that there is another human out there who will fix everything – starts creating stories around the people we meet. I have seen it turn beautiful, advanced, sovereign souls (men and women) into blubbering, sad, angry humans over and over again. I know because I have been sucked into the construct before – especially in several recent past lives. Here’s how it usually happens: we meet someone and instantly know it is significant. We – either on our own or with the help of a psychic reader – identify someone as one of these relationship categories – twin flame, soul mate or karmic relationship in our heads. We attach stories and expectations onto the person whose soul is so very familiar to us, and then we are upset when that person doesn’t want to participate at the depth we expect or vice versa. We or they choose to either wait around for the other person to have an awakening and continually put up with their abuse, hanging onto some small amount of hope that they will realize the relationship. Or, we jump from person to person, hoping this one will finally be it. Either way it becomes an addiction, a huge distraction from the soul’s journey and especially detrimental to the self-actualization process, should that be your choice in this life. Just recently, in my own inner exploration, my soul showed me a trap door. He/she/it said, "You can open this door to fully to experience the love I, soul, have for you, the beautiful, funny, spunky, sometimes really bitchy human aspect called Lauren. Are you ready?” I was, and I did. I went within and opened the trap door unable to know what to predict. That’s because I had no idea what kind of love would pour out of the door. If anyone had every loved me to the point of human extreme, it was my father. It’s the most powerful form of unconditional love I have experienced in this life - and my only gauge. Well, the internal soul love for me, the human, was like that times infinity. Words are beyond limiting for the love I experience(d). Today I spend hours basking in that self-love. I do not long for or want a steady romantic partner in my life. My time alone is too precious. I’m too busy wrapped up in being in love with me. (I know – BARF – but it’s true). Maybe one day I will experience a human relationship with someone else who has opened his own trap door to the ineffable love of soul. I won’t settle for less than that. Two sovereign beings sharing a life experience no matter how long it lasts is the only way to go for me. Friends, your souls are calling. That longing you feel for love and recognition from lovers, friends and/or family – that’s really your soul calling you, requesting ever so patiently for you to finally start the internal relationship he/she/it has waited so very long for. Won’t you consider opening the door? I promise those external, sometimes mythical and mostly addictive relationships will not even compare to the amount of LOVE the soul has for you, the human. This is what moving from the new age into the new energy is all about. You are sovereign. You are your own creator. You are complete. Will it fix everything? NO. Will you still have bad days? YES. Will you become immediately enlightened? PROBABLY NOT. Yet, life is a hell of a lot easier when you operate in the self-love between soul and human. Self-love is essential in the journey to return to your true creator nature. How can you be a master creator when you're not head over heels for yourself? Published in March 2018, the Thirty Days of Self-Love book and interactive journal is available for FREE download at www.becomingsarh.com. That's how passionate I am about it. Also, since writing this post so many years ago - the most read post of all time - I will update you that I have been in a beautiful relationship with another sovereign being for almost two years. We are loving sharing our realization with each other in this beautiful last life. We have no stories about our relationship. It doesn't take any work to maintain. We simply enjoy BEING together. There is no strife or struggle involved and never has been.
beautifully written, Lauren. I was drawn to the title of your post as it reminded me a post I myself wrote about this topic: "The myth about the Twin-Soul". http://www.lovush.com/the-/2006/4/14/the-myth-about-the-twin-soul.html#.Vz1VypErKhc
Lauren
5/20/2016 08:52:18 am
Thanks, David. I agree. There's so much missed in school, but then again I guess we wouldn't have had the experience of going through the realization that we are god, also. I will go check out your article.
Queenmehru
10/25/2017 08:14:02 am
I'm so sorry for writing this Lauren, but baby you know 0% about twin flames and twin souls.... I'm so sorry for you you are just a kid for this subject...... I would recommend you to read about Romio juliet, Lela majnu and many more legends are there for these concepts answer.... You must study that baby first.
Celestina
10/25/2017 08:24:05 am
Oh dear me. As one thoroughly in a twin flame relationship...we did not know what to call it at first...rest assured there IS such a thing. Between mature, stable individuals with much life history behind them and not daydreamy flight of fancy new agers. Solid folks that join at the soul and grow and become the best we can be because of this extraordinary bond. We searched for a term to fit our remarkable bond and finally stumbled on twin flame. At last! It makes sense...This IS we. We ARE this. Twin flame is much more than love or any human term for emotion. We revel in it and feel so blessed and fortunate. This is forever and we and our separate lives and our separate various friends and our separate families are much much better because of this. We share Twin Flame with those about us. We cannot but help it.
Candai
11/3/2017 08:59:38 pm
It's totally understandable that you don't get it. I battle with this regularly because I don't know how I got to be a Twin Flame, but from my experience I am. I wanted for things to go back to the way that they we're before I meet him. I still find this journey to be a battle between my intellect and my heart. If your not going thru it you will NEVER understand. I've tried talking to my friends and I know that don't get it because they sound and speak just as you do. There were times where I'm just like screw these feels I'm OUT! But I can't escape them. I had a good life and then he came along and now there's this battle of intellect vs heart. No one can put into words the immense joy that your heart feels when you meet this one person and I wouldn't be attracted to my twin flame at all under regular circumstances he's way older and a prude to be nice. but I look into his eyes and my heart is happy. I'm open minded enough to see where this goes, but for now I'm just going to continue validating myself and being the best person that I know how. I believe in this ONLY because I experienced the bond and the connection. Whether you believe me or not is none of my business. I can testify to it being a real thing in my life. Main because I've done everything to deny this connection.
Heartful
2/7/2018 11:30:30 am
I absolutely agree with Queenmehru.
Jodi
11/23/2018 09:22:39 am
QueenMeru... Lauren is bang on. Go deeper; you'll find you ARE your twin flame.
Sara
12/8/2018 04:49:27 pm
Totally agree with Jody. I finally healed and let go of this said twin person and the reality was the experience was about me finding myself and loving myself. It was never about being with him. Once I did this understandably my vibration raised bc I healed and he fell away. I no longer desire him. Because he fit who I was and the lack of self love I had, I outgrew him and I outgrew this and thankfully the connection ceased
Mary
12/31/2017 01:35:30 pm
Years ago I was interested in the spiritual world. I believed in God and Jesus, but also reincarnation, ascension, and communicating with spirits as well as animal communication. I was working with several spiritual counselors including a Shaman. A spirit came to me as my Twin Flame. The joy I experienced with God and my Twin Flame were immeasurable. This lasted for. 3.5 years.....then my "Twin" was taken from me and the light spiritual beings I was dealing with 'turned' on me. I was tormented by hundreds of demons for a year and a half. I came to learn that ALL of the beings I was dealing with were demons...that God was not with me, and that most of what I believed for most of my life was not true. The Truth. Is, there are no 'good' spirits talking to us, only demons imitating light and love in order to draw people into their web of darkness and destruction. I learned that spiritism is an abomination to the One True God much in part for this reason. If you are dealing with 'spirits' you are gambling with your eternity. There is no such thing as Twin Flames and the Only spirit you should seek is God, Jesus, and He does not appear as you say Lauren. You are dealing with demons imitating Jesus and anyone else that will thrill you and inflate your pride. Trust me I know what I am talking about. If you want to know the Truth, pick up a Bible and ask the Jesus of the Bible to show you the Truth. Your life on earth and eternity are at stake.
Chaide Elwood
3/25/2018 08:18:18 pm
There is no such man as Jesus. He is a myth.
Chippy
4/8/2018 12:18:00 am
Bahahahahahaha hahahahahah Mary that was the best read ever!!
Mary
6/24/2018 05:05:14 pm
I agree completely with this warning and would like to add to it. The only spirit that is of God that would “speak” to you is the Holy Spirit, should you want to listen. And the only message from God is the one in the Bible. Jesus would not appear to you or speak to you in that way for that’s the purpose of us receiving the Holy Spirit, by Gods Grace and his terrible sacrifice for all of us.
Reva
7/20/2018 10:38:49 am
I'm sorry you are garunteed incorrect. I would know. I'm in a twin flame relationship. And trust me when I say it is real.
Jazzy
7/21/2018 03:19:32 am
Well written.. but you haven’t met your twinflame ;). The surge of transcendent self love you experienced ... that is what twinflames feel for themselves as well as one another. It’s one in the same. If you are able to compartmentalize that love away from the “other” person- they’re simply not your twinflame. Sounds like a lovely soul mate as you describe. And it’s true- twins in separation very much need to go within and experience the frequency of love that is ALWAYS available to them regardless of whether or not they’re in physical union with their twin In the present moment. But the fear your describing of people becoming addicts because of the. Twinflame concept.. that discomfort.. that suffering, passes. Twinflame love is a journey within as well. 9/17/2016 01:40:41 pm
Thank you Lauren for sharing this myth, I couldn't agree more. 7 years of celibacy and the journey into self-love was the door that led to the most love I have every experienced with all aspects of my multi-dimensional being and all of life.
Karen Kalena
9/19/2016 11:49:38 am
I jumped to this topic on your blog site as an email friend of mine seems to be immersed in this twin flame concept, and it just didn't resonate with me. I do resonate with what you have written here. We are sovereign in and of ourselves, and are here discovering and expanding our self love. I don't know if you've run across the speaker/author Matt Khan, but one of the things he says is that whatever you want from another person, give that to yourself. I've used that more than once to great success. If my human is experiencing disappointment in relation to someone else, I ask what it is I hoped to receive from them that I did not get, and then give that to myself. Most often it is some form of love and acknowledgement. :) So yes, self love and the deepening of self love rocks!
LAUREN
9/19/2016 11:52:03 am
Karen, thank you! When working with clients that is always my first question in any relationship issue, what were they giving you that you can't give yourself? I'm glad I'm not the only one who felt all wrong about this concept.
Queenmehru
10/25/2017 08:16:28 am
Only the matter is people them Selves didn't know what is happening cos there wasn't so much education up one twin souls...... It it self is the matter of souls so it has to be complecated. Hi Lauren: you are absolutely right- no one can complete us but us. And once we reach a certain level of consciousness, everyone is our twin flame. You are however, taking issue with the twin flame myth, and not the twin flame reality. We are one androgynous soul while in spirit, there is no 'half' of a soul, because a soul can't be divided. There is a masculine charge and a feminine charge of the soul, and upon incarnation the soul becomes either male or female to experience duality in this universe. Twin flames incarnate more often together than any other soul relationship, and our twin is just as likely to be our mother, or father, or child as they are to be a husband or wife. A twin's presence in our life signals an opportunity for immense spiritual growth that no other soul can offer. The twins do not separate and roam the earth only to come together on their last incarnation, that is absolute myth. A twin flame relationship can be one of the most complicated relationships you will ever have, and can be a path to immense spiritual growth.
Lauren
7/27/2017 01:29:23 pm
Whatever works for you, Glinda! That sounds cool and expansive.
Lauren
9/21/2016 11:44:27 am
You know, we could go on for ages about all the terminology. Our experiences with other people - if we allow them & no matter what we label them - prep us for the big finale in which we experience the ineffable love of self. Instead of seeking things outside of ourselves, we can provide everything we need for ourselves instantly. In being full of self love, we become experts at radiating and are no longer just receivers in our existence. We expand, become infinite and step into our mastery, joining the estimated 10,000 other masters who have completed their cycle of lifetimes on Earth. No need to get hung up in the details (for me). Feedback appreciated, Glinda!
Thomas
9/21/2016 01:37:05 pm
Thank you Lauren for sharing your story here!
Lauren
9/22/2016 09:59:11 am
Wow, Thomas! Thank you for sharing. Often the love we feel for this so-called twin flame is a great measure of the love we can give to self. AND you already know this. I appreciate your feedback.
David
9/21/2016 10:27:31 pm
Thomas,
Eben
2/16/2017 12:39:19 pm
Hi there. I agree with the bulk of this. I've spent abit of time questioning it myself. I think however it's possible that twin flames do exist just not in the way that we might wish for in a less evolved state. When you mention sharing with a sovereign being it could be with any soul potentially, however also with a soul who was created from the same star or same soul pattern. It's not going to be the emotional hole filling thing. More just a structural thing within the pattern of creation.
Lauren
2/16/2017 02:34:43 pm
Definitely! Well said. Thank you!
Eben
2/16/2017 01:06:04 pm
Another perspective. It is often assumed that the best thing for us is ascension. And that when we evolve we will leave earth for a better place. However this story is not obligatory. We create our own stories in the universe and some would prefer to perfect a balance that is sustainable within the dualistic earthly paradise we have been given. There are no rules and we create how the universe works with our perception. Just how it's revealed in quantum physics. So we can have a beautiful story of self realisation where we are complete with our own self love and never prone to the pitfalls of dependency etc and ascend off the earth. Or we can decide to ride duality like a surfer. Perfecting awareness so we know how it works getting less hurt each time. Knowing love comes in waves and there's always another one to catch. And sometimes you've got to wait for a swell..but you can enjoy the illusion. Enjoy the dualism. Sun on your face. Green grass in your fingers. The rewards of dualism. And the price. Death. The adventure of that danger of mountain lions who live in the mountains where you love to hunt. And the danger of loss. And t he beauty of love as it's fragile and uncertain. The joy of another. The polarity of the sexes. Man and woman on earth with the kundalini and the
Lauren
2/16/2017 02:36:06 pm
As a surfer, I love your analogy. Our world is what we create. Absolutely and so well said. Thanks for taking the time to share your words. Surf's up!
Athena Kreig
2/19/2017 09:07:57 am
LOOOL Twin flames and shit is stupid and funny, you go with your intuitions yo lmao XD and as for the divine masculinity or femininity . both the quality exists within the vague definitions created by the human kind , inside our head. lol So If we have to transcend transcend from your thoughts lol, There is soul in the mind not the hearth / :') Yin yang is a concept to help heal your mind aka soul.
Lauren Hutton
4/19/2017 01:16:16 pm
Thanks for stopping by and sharing your insights, Athena! 3/29/2017 04:11:33 pm
Hello Lauren,
Lauren
4/19/2017 01:13:49 pm
Thanks so much for your insights. For me, once I moved beyond karma - stating the law is not mine - I found I have opened up in beautiful ways. Appreciate you stopping by.
L
4/3/2017 02:31:32 am
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Lauren Hutton
4/19/2017 01:17:03 pm
Thanks for sharing and stopping by New Energy Creator.
An
9/17/2018 09:34:43 pm
I feel the exact same way..I just want a soul eating demon to put an end to the misery. So they can't do this to me in the next life.
JR
4/19/2017 09:51:28 am
Happy you found solace in this "revelation," but understand, it does not everybody's truth. The biggest drive of the human heart, at the end of the day, is perfect love. Well perfect love does not exist in a plume. It is not a formless vapor and it is NEVER unto oneself....unless you are a narcissist. In order for it to mean anything, it has to be unto another.
Lauren
4/19/2017 01:11:30 pm
"Understand that is not everyone's truth" - Goodness, No, I certainly hope not. There is no single truth for me. How awfully boring would that be? For the record, my own truths continuously evolve and change. All I aim to do is share my stories and see what it brings up for others. I am the authority on nothing but my own journey, and I encourage others to write their own tales.
JR
4/19/2017 08:00:31 pm
Did not read your answer carefully enough, and for that I apologize.
Philanthropists
7/27/2017 12:24:04 pm
"Happy you found solace in this "revelation," but understand, it does not everybody's truth. The biggest drive of the human heart, at the end of the day, is perfect love. Well perfect love does not exist in a plume. It is not a formless vapor and it is NEVER unto oneself....unless you are a narcissist. In order for it to mean anything, it has to be unto another."
Lauren
7/27/2017 01:36:14 pm
Hey, un-named friend - did you see this - I'll share it again...
Lawrence Grant
7/27/2017 02:10:57 pm
Please understand that I was not debating anything, or trying to come of stabbish. Simply, I have read those kind of post and they hurt because they come off as if though people are intending to say that as a human, I should be thinking a certain way. I'm sorry but those kinds of post truly do irk me, especially when other's began to reference religion and other beliefs in an attempt to strengthen the idea that I'm supposed to be this way.
Candace Cullins
8/9/2018 09:10:50 am
Well said and recieved. Ty.Light and love
Celestina
10/25/2017 08:30:24 am
Some totally ignorant of the concept of TF are BLESSED with it none the less. THAT IS WHY IT IS A TRUE THING. It happens exceptionally rarely BUT IT DOES. I am in such a relationship and was unaware of such beforehand. It is like the light of all heaven and earth to be shared. This flame.
Lauren
10/25/2017 08:53:51 am
That's amazing. Thanks for sharing your experiences.
Sara
11/7/2017 10:29:30 am
This experience is what it is. It's very real. I'm still feeling mine's emotions at times in my chakras and can't do anything about it. However I tie no romantic fantasy to this anymore. I saw it as a wake up call to heal and love myself and I'm entirely focused on self love and healing and letting my twin flame go every day. And I only get stronger and don't miss or yearn for him anymore. I just want to be whole alone and move on with my life right now. That's the only focus. But the experience label or not is what it is and it's very real. People just don't get it's about ascension and nothing more. It's about your relationship with yourself. That's about it.
JR
4/19/2017 02:26:20 pm
I certainly hope my tone didn't come off as defensive.... ;-)
Lauren
7/27/2017 01:31:24 pm
Thanks so much for sharing. I tend to keep things simple. When I am madly in love with myself, everything falls into harmony. I appreciate you taking the time to share.
Celestina
10/25/2017 08:33:55 am
Twin Flame is nothing if not non-exclusive. You cannot help but share what the twin flame relationship brings to you with others. You become better, you connect with the best parts of you because of your twin, you route out the inner daemons together, you bring strength to each other, and your friends and family reap the benefits of this better you. I would wish twin flame for everyone. But will share mine (ours) to the utmost.
Violeta
5/17/2018 07:51:25 pm
That is the best, the most succinct, and most inspiring description of the twin flame relationship (and its "fruits") that I have read. Thank you for posting it, Celestina.
Kirk
7/6/2017 05:20:35 am
It is obvious that you you've never experienced the twin flame relationship. There is only one absolute. But just because you have a skeptical mind. Doesn't mean your right or wrong. How do you try to be a hater? When Jesus healed others, there were skeptics, just like you...... You can't tell people what they know. If I hear the voice of God do you think I'm going to pay attention to this blog..... Just like if your an alcoholic or drug addict and I am not. I'm a firm believer if you've never experienced it don't hate on it.
Lauren
7/27/2017 01:28:11 pm
Your own truth is amazing. If it works for you, use it. I was only sharing my own experience. Madly in love with myself and my partner. Whatever works for you, I honor it!
Lynne
8/16/2017 06:15:06 pm
I agree with a lot of what you have written, but I do believe in existence of 'twin flames', while I dislike that label.
Celestina
10/25/2017 09:05:05 am
NOT split souls. That's patently ridiculous. Two souls old souls knowing one another through the eons joined together once again. You are your own person your twin is theirs. That's what makes the beauty of the relationship so profound. Separate but together in an unbreakable bond.
Candai
11/3/2017 09:12:16 pm
Amen Kirk, I get so tired of people including my closest friends telling me this ain't real. If I punch you and I don't get affected by the interaction does that mean that it never happened? Or that the person that I punched was lying about the pain? No??? so how can a person who has no experience tell people that have experience this CRAZY journey speak??
True me
10/3/2017 02:56:56 pm
I have just gone through 2 plus years in what has been confirmed countless times as a twin soul relationship. Not false, but true, confirmed by many different, reliable and varying sources.
Lauren Hutton
10/3/2017 10:05:40 pm
Thank you so much for sharing, True Me. I think people like you sharing your story is so very important, and I appreciate you doing so here. I honor everyone's personal experience AND as a facilitator, I have never seen so much suffering caused from any concept as much as the twin flame one. Self-love will always be the answer for me. And, I learned a lot about myself in the twin flame "search" before I returned to SELF. Thank you so much for sharing! - Lauren
Celestina
10/25/2017 09:12:40 am
If it causes suffering it is not true twin flame. Those who search for their twin flame may be disappointed. The truest twin flame relationships happen serendipitously as if the universe is involved. Which it is the case in a true twin flame reunion. My twin and I didn't know the concept of twin flame until months of struggling with that to call our life changing bond. It is not sex, lust, yearning, even love. It is much more. So much more.
Kash
11/3/2017 12:15:17 pm
Hello Lauren, and thanks for the wonderful points you put forward here.
Lauren
11/3/2017 05:46:29 pm
Indeed I am enjoying a relationship with another self-realized being. And it is not "romantic" in the way that you only experience from co-dependence. I had to find that self love and honor on my own first. Thanks so much for sharing!
Angela
11/6/2017 06:48:07 am
Please do not post or claim things without complete knowledge. Certain things you have to experience to believe. Twin flames are real. And I myself has experienced this. It is not some hypithesis but a proven thing.
Lauren
11/6/2017 07:38:04 am
Angela, I love being in a world where I can share my personal experience without censorship and you can too. Mature souls telling people what they can and cannot do. That's a knee slapper! Chosen by who? Give me a break.
Dee
12/7/2017 05:33:44 am
Dear All,
Marie
2/19/2018 12:37:03 pm
I agree with you. The whole twin flame experience is real but the whole happy ever after fairytale crap is bullshit. I don’t know one person with theirs and I’m friends with 4 women who met theirs. It’s when they heal from this person and let them go they attract someone available who actually loves them. This twin person never comes around after that. It’s just a strong past life karmic lesson. But I can bullshit on the happy ever after. I’ve been working on the grief of fully letting mine go. I don’t trust him he’s proven nothing but to be an unreliable flake that has made me an option for years becuase of his “fear”. Well fear or not pretty douchey to me and I def don’t want to be his last pick. Gimme a break. I feel like people still hung up on this person have unresolved mommy and daddy issues to sort out and heal. Once I healed a lot of mine the love has severely faded. Of course it’s to heal your old patterns and when you love yourself enough you finally move on from this trap of beliefs realizing you don’t want someone who treated you like literally crap. I truly don’t wish the pain of this journey on my worst enemy, he was worse than my narcissist ex as far as pain.
Jk
3/10/2018 01:00:16 am
I can ascertain that.
Sara
7/24/2018 01:48:34 pm
Actually the reason it’s painful is Bc you’re clearing all your old junk and ego that’s keeping you separate from god and your twin. This journey is about GOD first. Putting god as first in your life. Bc you can’t control your twin or this. Jesus showed himself to MANY of us with our counterparts with the same message of “trust me”. There’s no way around it. Letting go of control and only leaning on god is the only way. And yes enlightenment is finding god so yes the purpose of meeting this connection is to find yourself AND god FIRST. The dalmantling of the ego is not a pleasant thing it’s awful. But as you continue in this journey you have more peace and trust in god and can lead with your heart and soul and not your mind anymore. And that’s a beautiful thing. I think some people are just bitter they can’t control their twin and truthfully you can’t control anything! Control is an illusion. Surrender is the only way out. To let go and stop the battle of the mind and the heart. Peace and unity consisousness and wholeness will come over you and funny enough your twin instantly returns and you’re together for good. It’s just this depth of love and god’s love (Bc that’s precisely what you feel) is so potent it brings up everything with you that isn’t in alignment with that vibration, so believe it or not this process does prepare you for each other. It’s all for a greater purpose. And most of us are starting life purposes helping people break these patterns too with self love and healing their wounds. So we are going through the fire to help others too (most importantly). We are here to help others awakened to the truth of their own divinity. And believe me most of us never even knew a twin flame existed, it found us and threw us off guard and we had to search for answers when going through the awakening, telepathy, and soul merging process with this other person. It wasn’t a choice, lol. I don’t wish this on anyone it’s tough. But the growth is immense and I’ve just been allowing it take its course so the fight is over. God wins lol.
Marie
2/19/2018 01:04:58 pm
You hear of people saying they need to heal more to be with them and they must be mentally sick. It’s more like you need to heal more to realize you don’t want someone like this. Someone coming in and out of your life, with little regard or care for you doesn’t belong in your life. It’s emotional abuse. The stories I’ve heard are beyond awful. Mine came back saying he was ready and ran and got a gf for a week but couldn’t fake he didn’t love her so he dumped her and has been single ever since bed hopping my entire town to numb his soul out a little more. He was crazy obsessed with me when we met that I don’t deny but he’s such a damaged person he totally screwed any chances with us up. I’ve heard of many women pregnant and their twin left them with their children!!!!! They abandoned their own blood, their child. One hers didn’t show up for their wedding and ran. After she spend 20 grand. Let’s stop smoking the crack people! This is freaking abuse!!!! You deserve better than these men who came to wake you up to your true worth. It’s a matter of when you stop putting your hand in that fire anymore and move on with your life you actually get the real thing appear.
Sam
12/31/2017 06:44:38 am
I have to agree with Lauren I think it's a huge illusion that we are chasing after something, they myth that a part of us is missing. To me that is nonsense. Spirit has made us whole and complete. It really is about loving ourselves. No one can complete or make us whole, that is something only we can do for ourselves. The love we share with another person is just a connection with a soul mate or souls that we shared many life times with and have gotten to be familiar to us. I remember reading from the book of author and past life regressionist Mira Kelley how she had a client that actually had a relationship with a spirit that came from the same over soul as they call it. Some people would put the title "twin flame" on it which I don't. It was if not one of the most difficult and painful relationships for that spirit to learn. It's not a omg it's so passionate and loving embrace relationship, it was a relationship that pushed buttons and they struggled emotionally up and down. Her book open my eyes to a lot of things that being one of them. Our greatest ability in this world and the most important thing is to give love despite no always receiving it back. It's more about us and less about other people. If we share a wonderful love with another spirit that is great but self love is the ultimate goal and giving it freely and unconditionally is what is the most important thing.
R
1/12/2018 02:44:18 am
Thanks for writing this article! I was looking up "Twin Flame Myth" because I really get sick of reading what I view as a lot of garbage from 'experts' who seem to be living in some kind of unrealistic fantasyland and encouraging others to do the same.
M
1/14/2018 01:02:35 am
Every single person who is doubting twin souls has never been in the actual field of a twin flame union. Many 'hear' about it. its become a buzz word. Even more try to look for it or when they find another who hey 'vibe' with, they try to ask the question: are they my twin. But let me tell you, if you ever really see them, you will know. You will know in a way that leaves no room for doubt. It is the most real thing you will ever experience. More than likely, you will never have heard of or have any resonance with terms like twin soul (i didnt). You may well NEVER want to be in that situation (maybe you were never even looking conciously). But you will be helpless to follow.
cari
1/15/2018 05:32:56 am
agreed to a degree but not totally - i think the word love doesnt cover it - it is beyond love and no one knows what it is - i think in order to get across laurens message of self love she did not have to bash twin flames - twin flame connection is evolution yes and it is about connection on different planes of existence coming to consciousness and if you do not have a counterpart that is far less evident - it is also about a shift in awareness and responsibility to life and self within life - it is a mirror experience but a catalyst for change not just within the self but within what it means to connect with another >>> what can be created from connecting
M
1/16/2018 12:23:15 am
Personally, I very much doubt that the twin flame experience is a means to an end. In my humble opinion, it is too big to be a means to any end. It may well cause other things to open up and come to light in the soul, but that is more an effect than a purpose.
Sam
2/4/2018 05:22:23 am
No what I have noticed is we get caught up on labels. No matter what one wants to believe is that unconditional that is freely given is what matters and that is what is real love, the only one that truly exists. A relationship does not have to romantic to experience that. Spirit loves us and we return to that source we are not empty, nor are we missing. A human life experience is very brief. We want to believe this or that so it can make life bearable. I am not knocking people's experience of a deep spiritual love or attraction but what I do want to clarify is that it's not always in a romantic capacity either. Love doesn't have limits it does not have a specific form either. Animals for example are the ones that can be the perfect example of unconditional love.
Marie
2/19/2018 12:41:19 pm
Let me ask you a serious question. Why do you want to be with someone unavailable who isn’t choosing you but choosing others? It’s usually lack of self esteem and unhealed inner child stuff. When you heal this your perspectives will start to shift. Everyone believing in this person coming to save the day are stuck in a delusion thinking they will make them complete and resolve their unhealed pain. When you heal fully you’ll look back and be shocked how much your inner child ran the show wanting someone who treated you like less than the love you and everyone deserves.
Marie
2/19/2018 01:14:53 pm
M why do you feel the need to hold onto this so tightly? This is about self love, you know. I’ve been on the journey 2 years and if there’s anything I get from this is to heal myself and be my own lover becuase that man will never be capable of it. Stop the fairyland stories. They are keeping you stuck in a delusional nonexistent relationship. People are literally in love with a ghost it’s sad. Id hate to see you spend a whole life alone stuck in this cycle. Do you want True love or this person? If you want this person over true love that is equally reciprocated you should really ask yourself why that is. It’s self worth lack.
M
2/28/2018 08:11:56 pm
Because your twin flame is you. They are more you than you are yourself.
M
1/14/2018 01:10:57 am
I do not know whether everyone has a twin flame. What a twin flame is, is a mystery even to those in the union. It is the one thing none of us can put into words. And in my experience, it is even more mysterious than enlightenment. It almost feels like a deep silent 'other' path that is revealed to some, for reasons that perhaps even the universe itself does not fully comprehend.
21grams
2/1/2018 05:30:28 pm
I understand not resonating with they Disney move, romantic mythos that people push and sell but UNLESS, you have actually experienced what people have labeled the Twin Flame connection you are really speaking about it from a place of ego in my opinion. And that's ok, the problem is...there are people actually going through this process that could use actual guidance and between people who don't really understand it telling them that it's a 'myth' and others who have found a new online marketing niche to capitalize off of, it leaves a lot of people out in the wilderness. I agree with the article's commentary on self love and not looking for your 'other half' to fix you.
Marie
2/19/2018 12:45:44 pm
And how is holding onto this helping you move forward in life? I see so many women rotting alone waiting for this person it’s freaking depressing. They were a wake up call to love ourselves. That’s it. And until you fully do and let go you can’t fully heal and move on with your life to have true love. Do you want someone unavailable who’s not in your life or true love that’s reciprocated? Ask yourself why you want to hold onto someone who isn’t loving you properly. Unhealed stuff within.
Catherine
2/2/2018 06:59:22 am
Thank you Lauren and all of you who commented so far on this blog post. You are all so honest in expressing your experiences! I totally needeed to read this today, as I have been deciding, with this latest full moon, to free myself from the ‘twin flame journey’.
Tammy
2/9/2018 07:19:31 am
The other thing about the TF journey is that you can’t actually stop it. No matter how much you want to deny it say it isnt real, it is always there. Trust me I have tried everything. If you are truly on the journey you just have to surrender to it because no amount of resisting it works ;)
Catherine
3/11/2018 12:37:45 pm
Dear Tammy, you are correct. I resonate with that. And interestingly, that is the case of all addictions. The journey to freedom is through attachments. And I did surrender. Or rather, I am fully surrendering to God.
Jaynice
2/11/2018 06:22:05 pm
Thank You Lauren for teaching us great methods of Self Love.
mona
2/24/2018 08:17:59 am
I am glad that finally I find someone who look at this twin flame madness with realistic eye. I spend last 3 years believing that a guy I broke up with is my twin flame. He was believing or pretending this also, communicating with me in very playful way thru many media, but we dont meet in real life during this time. I was believing in tf concept, had a dreams, telepatic comunications, even astral intimacy. We watch videos about * what next for twin flames etc., etc.. And u know what happend? I was alone for this 3 years, waiting and believing in something higly trendy now, when all kind of spiritual people make a loots of money on card reading online, keep them watching and waiting for their masculine to finally come down to earth. And He, during this time playing with me, have a girlfriend and happy life, I find out just recently, and I decided to move off all this TF madness. U can be happy with youself, u dont need your other half to be complete, to realise your life mission. U as u are, just perfect creation, u can give light to everyone. Rest is just another way of making bussiness on lonely peoples hearts. Wish u all the best. World is full of love and joy, live your tru life x
nicola
3/1/2018 03:09:18 am
Bravo!
M
3/10/2018 10:14:22 pm
No it isnt.
Leann
3/11/2018 04:13:28 am
I'm aghast that there are people who believe in this mythical "new age" nonsense. The new age movement is nothing short of a band-aid for the weak-minded. Content so vague, generalizing, and bias-confirming, is a charlatan's dream.
Catherine
3/11/2018 12:59:57 pm
Leann, my own twin flame journey has taught me to do my best to never judge others and to love myself and others unconditionally. Whether indeed I end up with my twin or not one day is no longer what fundamentally matters for me. But my journey was, and still is, beyond words (and beyond labels) amazing. And I do know a number of twins who do end up together in amazing unions. So I would like to suggest you suspend judgement. Maybe the twin flame journey is just not what you think it is...
M
3/13/2018 04:10:09 pm
Twin flames have nothing to do with belief. It is a knowing of the heart. And once you know, you can never un-know. And that knowing shatters any belief or disbelief that stands in its way. It is the biggest force of nature that anyone comes across.
Catherine
3/11/2018 01:01:10 pm
Congratulations for the new book, Lauren!
Thoughtfulone
3/16/2018 02:19:36 pm
I agree that it is a myth or fantasy derived from fairy tales and the concept of soul mates. I think people are confusing someone whom is in their soul group who they've incarnated with over lifetimes as a twin-flame. We all choose our incarnations with our soul group and come into each other's lives to help us learn what we need. That's why your mother could have been your sister, brother, daughter, husband, wife in past lifetimes. People seem to have created their own definition of twin-flames, when it's widely accepted that it is defined as one soul split into two. Which like you said is not in line with the purpose of our existence. Whenever someone like you posts something that calls out the TF theory as a myth, suddenly people are sooo quick to be on the defense and convince you (actually themselves truly) otherwise. To those who are so desperate to prove her wrong, who are you really trying to convince? What purpose does it serve you to go out of your way to make sure you think she is incorrect? Maybe think about why your consciousness brought you to this page and re-examine your beliefs. We all do not have the answers, but we are constantly being taught lessons by the universe. Remember we are here to learn more than we are to make sure others share our beliefs. Do what speaks to you and if for now you need to believe in the TF theory. That's fine, but don't hold on to it so much that it inhibits your ability to keep listening to the universe and your higher self.
CATHERINE
7/31/2018 12:51:43 pm
I agree with you, Thoughtfulone, that there is danger in becoming fixated with the TF story or concept, or any part of what's forcefully taught out there about it, as there is big danger in becoming fixated with just anything... There is danger to become fixated with that 'other person' too! Quite honestly, I never bought the story of one soul split in two but I do feel the feminine and the masculine energies inside of me... So that resonates positively. Both were damaged and needed healing and my own beautiful TF journey helped me heal them. The TF journey became an inside adventure for me. Yet as you also know, one does need to fixate on something to understand the other side of that polarity which is freedom. The journey to freedom is through fixating and letting go... and again.
OK!
M
4/2/2018 10:35:46 pm
You lack compassion and therefore, eyes with which to see. That is all.
Ana
4/14/2018 03:46:10 pm
Or maybe I just SEE, what you refuse to see.
M
4/14/2018 08:10:46 pm
If you saw, you wouldnt talk so trivially about it. You talk about it like it was a game and not a single person who has had a true twin encounter could ever talk in that way. If your heart's eye was open, you would be able to sense at least that much. But your having too much fun denying other people's realities and burdens and feeling good about it. Thats ok, you can go on doing that. A true twin flame experience is singular and irreversible.
Ana
4/16/2018 05:23:03 pm
I don’t remember saying they are not real. I actually said, that nobody can deny or approve that they are real or not. I also said, that if they exist, they do NOT need some sort of guidance from blue child, healers and God know what other payed and invented bullshit from other people trying to rip you off. It needs you and others having the same experience.
Ana
4/16/2018 05:36:56 pm
And one more thing... I might look like this version of Grinch for Twin Flames to you and I understand but as some dream about their imaginary pain for their twin, real life happens out there. Rape, violence, crime and a lot of stupidity... I could add up child abuse, pornography. You want this world to see this amazing connection, then get out of that cozy bed and fight to change the way the world acts on it.
M
4/17/2018 08:35:14 am
Im not underestimating you. I just know that you have never personally felt the twin flame connection or if you have, you have tried your best to dismiss it. your post is an ego filled rant taking pleasure in 'calling out' healers (who you know nothing about). No twin flame 'believed' in twin flames. It just happened to them one day and then, try as they might they couldnt disbelieve. There is only one twin flame and that is something you realize through the connection beyond any doubt. If you havent had the experience then no one can show you.
Ana
4/19/2018 05:25:14 pm
You know nothing indeed, so I suppose it is hard for you to understand.
Ana
4/19/2018 05:48:10 pm
And let me make it straight to you.
M
4/19/2018 10:43:08 pm
Usually, people who "think" they are someone's twin flame. arent. Most often, in real twins, no one has even heard of the concept and its only after that they find the words which fit their experience so completely. Once you have felt the essence of your twin and really seen them for who they are, there is no doubt in your heart that they are you. They are more you then you are yourself. They are a piece of you. You can not deny it.
Ana
4/20/2018 04:45:44 am
I’ve had heard many stories like this. Even reading some comments from around here, same silly situation as many others.
BJ
3/30/2018 01:47:37 pm
If anyone had told me even just a few years ago that there were Twin Flames I'd laugh them to scorn. But I've since gotten an education in humility. Twin Flames exist.
Mark
4/19/2018 07:49:48 am
Hi, I was in a twin flame situation and it is very REAL and it goes much deeper than most people realise. I feel that this might be one of the most difficult things to go through because of the connection twins feel, the signs and wonders and the split that occurs within the spirit.
M
4/19/2018 11:00:10 pm
There is an eternal difference between lust and love. You LOVE your twin flame. It forces open your heart. The nature of the heart is fundamentally at odds with the nature of darkness. The two can not work together. The truth of your twin can not be denied because it comes from the heart. It had nothing to do with dark spirits. Darkness often follows it because the light that shines attracts the dark {just as the brightest beings go through a lot of darkness as they balance out the opposites in the universe).
CATHERINE
7/31/2018 01:24:02 pm
M, quite honestly I was attracted to 'my twin' by the two aspects initially. The addiction and the beautiful true love. I did see his soul and I did feel the amazing spiritual connection. But both he and I also harbored the same abandonment and betrayal traumas which were acting like crazy magnets. And I can say today that only the dark aspect (the trauma) was the one acting and feeling like a strong bond. The other aspect, the true love aspect, actually feels free and expansive. As I healed from trauma I am now in this latter energy, fully unattached to any particular outcome, of any kind. I truly no longer care about union with him (or with another). I am in peace with it all.
BD
4/21/2018 10:05:52 am
I read your article of dismantling the twin flame myth and I wish I could agree. I am personally not or better said, WEREN'T religious, and I am in my 50's. I have had deep love experiences, being loved and loved others myself. Until I met my twin flame. Once our bodies touched (shoulders, when giving a casual hug), a strange surge of energy took over my body and mind. Like I stepped on electric wire. My telepathic ability opened. Consciousness too. I felt intense connection and out of the body sex many times. I could hear him at times very clearly saying things randomly (was he speaking to me?). If he were to contact me I KNEW. I felt what he was feeling. We were picking up on each other's anxieties and weeping for weeks in deep pain that was brought by this connection: childhood wounds, shame. I don't want to necessarily be with him, it is not about it. My childhood wounding came up with a surge, pains I did not I have had. Horrifying feeling of shame. I saw mine and his inner children! I saw his deep woundings. How do you even tell this to someone without risking that they never speak to you because either your are a "witch" or insane. He ended up cancelling on me because he was terrified, and I knew the moment he decided to cancel. He TOLD me so in my mind. Then I cancelled on him because I was terrified of facing that live energy. I saw him so far 1x after this phenomenon occurred. I was uncomfortable bringing up my experience, because I did wasn't sure of his state of mind and emotions. So I gently probed and yes, he likes me too - he was probing too, but not like just plain earthly lover, wanting a date or sex. He is involved with another person and might marry them. I don't have to be with him, but I am fascinated what the hell this connection is. I read and looked up and it is coming up as a twin flame connection. It feels awfully familiar, like something we have done before (in meditation a black and white photo of our family came up, we also had kids), and I know him almost better than myself. I can't get mad at him, nor treat him in any other way than accept. I don't know when I will see him next or what will happen. I know we will intersect again. Complicated, eh? Do we mirror each other, do we share a soul, do synchronicity that was showering me when we met REALLY means what they say? I don't feel him anymore in a way I felt him in the winter when we have met, not synchronicity occurs anymore. I am calm, bathing in my newly found peace and self contentment . Was that the purpose of this encounter? To realize that I wasn't loving myself enough and to keep working on myself the way I do now? Will we be an item at some point in time? Will we ever openly speak of his experiences with this? He is on my mind 24/7 but not in obsessive way like he was in the winter. He is just on my mind. Telepathy ceased, I don't feel him feeling for me or talking to me either. I am thinking that he must have closed his heart too to me. I spoke to psychic several times to support my sanity, and she said that he has no courage to pursue me and the timing is wrong. I am okay with it because the intensity of feeling that I felt for him is unbearable and only very careful and very loving union would possibly work between us. I am not particularly patient and not sure if I could handle such a huge task. He is emotionally immature and broken in some way as I found him and probably will stay in this state for the rest of his life on Earth and I am not much interested in playing mother or fixing him. So if anyone has experienced this, what is it? I have felt angel guides and myself operating on a different dimension. Kind of a crazy good state. I am well and strong and wanted to share my experience with you - the notion of Twin Flame encounter is not to be dismissed.
Eva
5/1/2018 02:59:51 am
So it all actually means, that people want to be in a relationship with themselves, cause as the "twin flame" term says it's 2 of 1 soul. Quite narcissistic if you think rationally. Why would someone want to have sex etc with themselves? It's always the CEO or some wealthy or handsome/beautiful etc person who everyone thinks is their "twin". Maybe it's a hobo on the streets collecting bottles or begging for money or drug addict etc.
M
7/29/2018 07:02:45 pm
No it doesn't. Stop projecting on things you know nothing about
I Just know that mother nature created a pair in everything for some reason. If we were sufficient by ourself, our way of reproduction would be different. We need to have a partner and have kids. That's natural. It's a good thing to love ourself suficienly , that's keep us apart from not healthy relationships but we need the other part to complete us, that's for sure.
Drew
6/13/2018 06:49:38 pm
So glad to read this.
M
7/29/2018 07:06:11 pm
If your heart genuinely felt that then he couldn't be your twin. If you have to label it, then it wasn't true to begin with. Doesn't mean that twins dont exist though. 7/31/2018 11:35:01 am
"What is the purest relationship of all? The relationship with yourself, first. What is the purest relationship with another Being, whether it is human or angelic? When they are two complete selves and don't need each other to complete themselves. Trying to complete yourself through another Being never works and sooner or later it will break up. But when two beings are sovereign, the love that can be shared and expressed - and the joy that can be experienced - is far beyond the old ways of relationships." -Masters in the New Energy, Adamus Saint-Germain, 2007
CATHERINE
7/31/2018 01:30:06 pm
Congrats on your new book, Lauren! ... And I fully agree with Adamus Saint-Germain - Feels great to read this on this blog of yours today. Thank you :)
Lauren
7/31/2018 01:32:19 pm
Thanks for sharing your beautiful story here, Catherine!
M
8/6/2018 01:46:20 pm
Catherine, I can feel the energy in your words and it is not the energy of twin flames. Believe me when I say you can feel incredible emotional and energetic bonds with others and love and addiction and attraction but that is NOT twin flame. Specifically, without any shadow of any doubt. Unhealed trauma often attracts its counterpart to express itself and in human sexual relationships this turns into various kinds of addictions and even co dependant love(or attraction). 100% incorrect. Twin flames absolutely DO exist, but rarely do those who are unawakened and not navigating this relationship understand it. Nor are they able to comprehend that the 'dysfunction and abuse" of a twin flame relationship is actually 2 people guiding each other to strip away the 3D & societal programming, and paradigms of conditional love, ego and inner wounding like that that is seeping through this entire article. Twin Flames, together, guide eachother through these stages into mastery, unconditional love and consciousness in order to help the planet reach the same.
M
8/14/2018 01:02:28 am
Watch this please
Kyle
8/17/2018 03:41:36 pm
Reading the article and the subsequent comments, I can't help but observe that the issue isn't the concept, but the words that are chosen to describe it. You can call it whatever you want but it really doesn't matter all that much. When you feel it you feel it. I never viewed the existence of a twin flame in the light you are casting it in the article, I have only ever read other articles on the internet describing it one of two ways, either it is someone who has experienced this and those descriptions vary wildly, and then there are people who probably haven't experienced it based on the homogeny by which they all describe it. Like you have, a completion of the soul, like a movie or something. obviously that isn't a real thing, I might be off in thinking most human beings are aware that that sort of thing doesn't really exist or happen. It would only take a few moments of thought.
Jamie
9/26/2018 10:34:20 pm
I think this is well said Kyle, and I have similar thoughts on it. I'm struck between feeling a bit relieved to take the pressure off myself by having a moment to not obsess over the twin flame goal, and enjoyed reading this article a lot to realize that the inconsistencies and stress I felt in my own readings about Twin Flames and relationship issues might be caused by just this same belief: maybe it's more of a "fairy tale" than I had been wanting to see? Yet, I also question the "self love" push not because I don't agree with it, but, interestingly enough, I was involved with someone (who was a "is this a twin flame?" person haha) who fascinatingly scoffed at the common "trend" he saw of people proclaiming that you have to love yourself, saying that human beings already know how to love themselves. He was saying finding/expressing love is all about another person and sacrifice... anyway it was more than that and I had a fun long talk with him. I think maybe he was confusing self-obsession with self-love (aka: don't go telling yourself you're a piece of shit all day, haha)... but his idea that self-love is born into human beings I think was spot on. And has me also questioning and feeling lonely when I hear about the "quest for self love". I want to treat myself well, and haven't always. yet I also see how I (and others) can get into a spiral of navel-gazing, which I find causes me great anxiety whenever it gets too frequent. Yet, I'm terrified of "not maturing or growing or healing" and so then the self focus starts again. Anyway, it's all fascinating! I do know that when I've given to others (in particular even a beloved, elderly cat I had who i took care of) I really feel I understood love and felt more at peace than I did when I tried to just "love myself"... though I also have meditated and spent time alone and reached great calm and love. I dunno.. I find I'm caught between worlds and beliefs. I don't want to be adamantly told to love myself and be alone, because I quite like the company of another human being haha. But then, of course there are toxic energies and/or behaviors and reaching out for people to fix you never feels good either (ie: Prince Charming Twin Flame? etc). Who's to say. I suppose I'm writing too much, haha.
Tyler
8/23/2018 08:25:15 pm
This was a great piece. I'm not saying twin flames are real or not real. What I am saying is I've seen so many people get suckered into this mythology of the twin flames. They're being led to slaughter by social media spiritual experts that are running telling everyone they're all going to meet their twin flame if they just believe. I mean really? I have to say that because there are so many naive delusional people that are following this and commenting with me too! And hearts and Yes! They're so desperate. But that was the same market that made Valentine's Day commercialized and famous. Business people knew they could make money from these sorry saps. Sorry no offense.
123
9/7/2018 10:55:41 am
Says one more person who has never experienced the real thing. It was a great piece was it? Great how? Because it falls in line with your NON-experience of the twin flames? Funny how EVERYONE who is commenting on this doesn't have the slightest CLUE about what twin flames really are. NONE of them have experienced it and yet they are the ones with the biggest expertise on this. What a joke.
Lauren
9/7/2018 11:44:50 am
The funniest part of all of it is I wrote this blog post in 10 minutes 2.5 years ago and it stirs shit up for people whose names are 123 and whatever. It's hilarious because if you truly know something deep within the consciousness of your being ness you never need to defend it. You simply are still and know. Everyone is allowed to have their version of enlightenment and you're simply at peace with the diversity in opinion. You don't have to YELL and shake a fist at anyone. In realization, there are no mirrors; there is only self. You are NOT going to find out who you are looking into the eyes of another. You can have fun trying though. And I so honor that experience, Mr or Ms 123.
123
9/12/2018 11:52:32 am
""You are NOT going to find out who you are looking into the eyes of another. You can have fun trying though.""
Jamie
9/26/2018 10:46:10 pm
I find it amusing that this article is about not looking for external sources (human or otherwise) for self realization or love or completeness, and yet so many of us are here in order to see/read something outside of ourselves to help us decide something. Or learn something, or feel something... At least I speak for myself haha. It's one of the paradoxes about all of this self healing journey. I'm constantly searching and reading to learn and be guided, yet being told that you cannot look outside yourself to be truly guided. Which i agree with and have experienced as well in deep meditation on my own (having insight, etc). Yet, the people telling us to not look outside are sharing something to "outsiders" in order to presumably help, or guide or shape in some way, haha. I just find it fascinating. maybe looking for someone to "complete" you can be harmful, and yet as human beings, looking into our world for various behaviors, or lessons - whether in relationships, direct words, actions, books, movies etc - in order to learn about (and ideally improve ourselves) is so incredibly human and natural, isn't it? It's how we learn as children; watching our environment. When we get older we can do "hmm, I see/read XYZ, how does that resonate with me? Yes or no?" and then go in one direction or another. I'm not arguing against being centered and self empowered, simply find it curious that this "you wont' find anything externally!" sentiment I read a lot feels slightly inaccurate. The love of animals or other people (outside myself) has given me a good understanding of how to be a better human, many times. Having people in my life (whether I yank them un-ceremoniously and addictively or they fall into my lap when I'm centered in myself) ends up teaching me a hell of a lot. And yet so does meditating and getting the hell away from needing anyone sometimes for a while, haha. Maybe I misunderstand, but I just find it interesting.
Ella
10/16/2018 06:07:05 pm
Hello Lauren. I typed ending this twin flame nonsense. And found your site. Reading the first paragraphs. And come to your book about Sah'r. And click the link. Do you know that Sah'r is the name that came to my lips after an experience lived? And ever since, every night I talk to this entity that I consider my guide? To end up here must be with a purpose. And I am looking forward to reading all your blogs. I'll go and buy your book, also. The coincidence is too too big. My soul, my guide, Sah'r ... What were the odds I would ever hear this name. Very thinking of him now. I put my trust in, I am so glad to see someone tell the truth about this crap. My wife of 40 years got involved with her "twin" who is a serious scam artist. She had an affair with him and left me. He is now trying to dump her but she still believes he is the one. I believe like you that if there is a twin flame it is yourself. I am an empath and unfortunately I feel her all the time even when she is making love with him! Kind of my hell on earth. If it had not been for all of these Twin Flame sites that encourage people like her to leave their spouse and follow their twin she would never have done this. Thank God there is one place that I can vent.
Jessica Rezende
11/17/2018 01:38:14 am
I don’t know where to start... other then this is killing me being away from my other half of my heart. This really hurts so much that I need to do molly just to feel love again.. I know it’s messed up but this is insanity. I can’t live without him but I can I’ve came this far. My heart is so broken and I don’t know if I can handle this I hate ever second that goes by. It’s negative but it hurts I keep using and somehow it hurts even more then the pain before because I get the PTSD of pain from when we used to use mdma together... guess it’s obvious why we are flames but ouch I need a band aid or something :( pray for my ass
M
11/20/2018 02:09:05 pm
Stop using. Love does not want you to hurt and it is love for him that is inside you. Just accept that you love him and that its ok to feel the way you do, however you feel right now, its ok. Take care of yourself.
BJS
12/4/2018 02:20:16 pm
I know this is an older post and it has sort of been beaten to death in the comments, but I just wanted to add my $0.02, I am a twin. I think i first heard about the concept of twin flames around 2014. I am a very spiritual person, and my journey began in the church. My experience with Christianity has made me EXTREMELY skeptical towards all spiritual movements, especially the new age. When I first heard about the concept of TF, I couldn't roll my eyes hard enough. It sounded ridiculous. 3 years later, I was in exactly THAT... and I VERY reluctantly started to revisit the concept. Labels aside, this concept is real. I know it because i am living through it. My twin is a professional therapist... and she was also an extreme skeptic about this. She's not anymore. When it happens to you, there is no mistaking it.
Lauren Hutton
12/4/2018 02:26:25 pm
BJS, thanks for sharing your story here. Appreciated how respectfully you did so. To each their own and it sounds like you have a healthy relationship with your partner. I have an amazing partner too! Whatever labels doesn’t matter. That self love and respect can be discovered through many paths. I loved myself first and my partner showed up later. Best to you both! Lauren, the owner of this website.
Kazandra
12/12/2018 05:02:50 pm
So do you think a twin who passes on because they couldn't continue to live in their bodies could come in as a walk in?
Lauren
12/13/2018 09:56:11 am
I think it's highly unlikely and perhaps its a good time to focus on self and the now. When you allow the mind to go down the rabbit hole of future potentials and possibilities, you deprive yourself of what's right here, right now --- you in the awakened state, embarking on the greatest adventure imaginable -- the RETURN TO SELF. How glorious a moment to take a deep breath and enjoy this life you chose, Zakandra!
Jenny
12/28/2018 06:15:18 pm
I read this post and the various comments with building amusement. So many people claiming to be "beyond ego," to "not care" about what others think--and then behaving in such a way as to make it obvious they do. Is it possible that everyone's "right"? That the author's conversation with "Yeshua" (not even going to comment on that when the article, in itself, is fairly bursting with equally impressive examples of pomposity) and his ensuing "guiding" silence spoke to her own truth while others have received equally valid "guidance" of their own. Why is everyone arguing about the validity of their own knowing? Comments are closed.
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