​CONFESSIONS OF A FORMER NEW AGE BULLY

I’ve been working on a more in-depth article on soul-level relationships, but it’s not quite done. In the mean time, here’s my top five list for the worst new age bullying offensenses out there. How do I know? Because I’m totally guilty of spiritual bullying. If you ever had to listen to me spout off the below bullshit, I apologize deeply, yet I’m not the only one.
 
From my personal experience, when we go through a spiritual awakening of sorts, we get so excited with our newly expanded perspective, our human self wants to share it with everyone around us. We want to yell, ‘You are blind, why can’t you see the truth?’ to everyone we know and meet on the street.
 
We say it’s because we want to help people. Yet, if we dig into what we believe is our passionate desire to enlighten others, we can see that it really comes from anger or disapproval of self – the former self that subscribed to the bullshit we’ve just discarded.
 
The funny thing is as we grow and evolve, that pile of our discarded bullshit multiplies. We become so sick of our own crap that we stop spouting it because we know at this level of growth, we’ll have changed our minds and hearts about it again and again. We know if we are lucky enough to keep evolving, our discarded bullshit pile could fill lakes and bury mountain, usually removing the massive temptation to push our wisdom upon someone else AKA bullying.
 
Furthermore, belief is all that is required to make something true for us. For example, I have an extremely lovely friend who believes hard work is the answer to creating her dream life, and it seems to work for her. I subscribe to a different system allowing everything I need and desire to come to me (I’m also lazy AF), and it’s currently working for me. So here are my top five new age bullying techniques, and a heartfelt apology for those who ever had to listen to my crap.

1. LAW OF ATTRACTION BULLYING: 

“Once you understand the power of positive thinking, you’ll never have a negative thought again…“
 
…until your dad, step-brother and mother-in-law die, you quit your career and get a divorce all within a two-year time period, then you will have some negative thoughts AND those negative thoughts will not have caused your situation. Instead, the situation becomes a powerful learning experience, which further deepens your personal soul connection but still fucking sucks on a human level.

2. ASTROLOGICAL BULLYING: 

During Mercury retrograde do not travel, sign a contract, start a job, buy electronics, start dating anyone, find a roommate, buy a car or anything really. Why not just stop living all together because if you do something during Mercury retrograde, you will be punished?!
 
SHUT UP! LIVE YOUR LIFE! The only laws that apply to us are the ones we believe in. If you do believe it, great, but there’s no need to spread the panic anymore. I seriously used to operate my business under these laws – my poor, poor business partner.

3. FOOD BULLYING: 

This one was the worst for me. I am so sorry. I am so sorry. I am so sorry to every meat-eating friend on my Facebook feed that I harassed you with pictures of dead animals and milking cows for the year I was vegan. I had terrible health issues, and veganism was a way of having some sort of control over them. I have certain standards for food consumption for myself that change depending on my body’s needs, yet your diet is none of my business. I’m terribly sorry I bullied you for your choice in food consumption. It was totally ridiculous.

4. CLICK-HERE-TO-SAVE-THIS-PERSON ONLINE BULLYING: 

This is not one I’m guilty of but let me just say that there is no one up above monitoring amens, likes, shares or anything on Facebook for that matter. Instead, let’s just honor those around us for wherever they are on their soul journey. Spreading their pictures around Facebook telling people if the don’t click like, type Amen or share, that they are a bad person/ not religious or spiritual enough is cyber bullying. If you want to participate, that's fine but don't try to bully the rest of us into playing your strange game. Really, it just feels like a total lack of respect for that person’s sovereignty and their personal journey.

5. YOU-CAUSED-YOUR-OWN-SITUATION BULLYING: 

This is a tough one as I do believe we create our own reality. However, I do not think people who get sick, are diagnosed with cancer, can’t find a partner or don’t have enough money are in that situation because of the following: your chakras aren’t aligned, you’re paying a karmic debt, your frequency was low/ you had a negative thought or emotion and attracted this poor situation and/or any other craptastic story someone tried to attach to your autonomous soul’s journey. Or worse, anyone advertising to magically fix it for hundreds of dollars. Shit happens. You get to decide how to respond, and you and your soul get to write the rest of the your story.
 
Now I could sit here and feel terrible about the person I once was when I contributed to this new age/ spiritual bullying, or I could honor that past self. I could find compassion for the young woman who was grieving the loss of the most important person in her life and who was making a huge decision to leave a career and a marriage that no longer felt authentic. I could remember how scared and lonely she was, and I can honor her for making me the kinder, more compassionate, infinitely more fulfilled and stable person that I am today.
 
That’s why I love the ancient greeting/ blessing Oh-Bee-Ohn, often used by my Crimson Circle friends, which means I honor you for the journey, no matter where you are. I’d add that it should not just be a greeting or blessing for those we meet along the way but also for our past selves, each and every one of them. I honor the person I was in the past for all her offenses, for I would not be where I am today without that fearful, angry, grieving young woman.
 
Oh-Bee-Oh, friends! I love and honor you for the ever-evolving human soul you are in this wild ride called life.

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